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The Afterlife of Suicide: A Long Journey

Updated: Sep 20, 2020

Some of the most difficult experiences I encounter in my own life are through my work as a spiritual mediator. People come to me when their loved ones have died, and via this intensely difficult work I've gleaned enormous insight into the nature of life and death and feel so deeply passionate about helping people heal their pain to prevent more tragedy.

Almost daily I share the unbearable grief of parents who have lost their precious children, the heartbreak of spouses unwillingly separated from life-long lovers, and - more often than I would like - the shocking tragedy that results when ordinary people are severed from loved ones by suicide; from both sides. To be an ear not only for grieving families but for the victims themselves is a profound experience and one I feel privileged to witness.

There are many aspects of death I write about, but this post is designed to touch those contemplating suicide as a solution to pain. Please share it far and wide, as it is my intention to impart a daunting prospect that could perhaps save lives. For people dealing with grief around the death of someone close, this information is part of a much bigger picture, and it is important to know that healing is always the goal - and the real possibility - of life itself.

So often in my sessions, people ask where we go when we die. In cases of suicide it seems to be of particular concern to family and friends of victims, perhaps because intuitively, or due to religious beliefs, the degree of 'distress' which led to the passing itself is cause for grave concern. I would have to agree, so one of the best analogies I use to relay the experience immediately following death is this:

We go to our heart.

If you've read my article The After-Death Experience: Does It Really Exist? you will know that the physical body is not the living experiencer but a conveyor of etheric energies which allows us to interface with the phenomenal world around us. Who 'us' is, is explained in that article.

In cases of suicide - regardless of the situational circumstances which led to the victim's suffering (relationship issues, financial debt, physical health crises) - it is always mental and emotional distress which prompts the lower will (the will of mind or personality as opposed to the higher Will of Mind or soul) to harm the physical body beyond redemption. The etheric and causal body (the living being) is then permanently separated from its manifest material expression; and the physical atoms once magnetised to it and held by the basic instincts of survival and self-preservation, now fall away.

Unfortunately for the person who has 'ended' their own life, all this does is removes them from their physical circumstances, unable to incarnate back into life as they knew it, and places them completely in their mental-emotional experience. In truth, things only get worse from there as there is no escaping the self. The realisation that all suffering is mental-emotional (experienced within the 'heart' of the person) and did not magically disappear at death, along with the unbearable guilt that ones own grief has now also been transferred to loved ones to bear, is the new reality.

Like all intrapersonal struggle, this distress must be transformed and transmuted over time. With the victim now unable to project blame or reason onto physical or material circumstances (or connect back into them), this agony of the heart - the war between soul and personality - will be the totality of the after-death experience until the experiencer is able to come to terms not only with the ongoing cause and effect of the original mental-emotional anguish, but the added guilt and regret. This takes considerable assistance, work and spiritual intervention, which is available to every person (incarnate or discarnate), but only when suffering is surrendered can it be exchanged for wisdom and grace.

In life and/or death, the 'spiritual' work of transmuting our lower personality aspects has to be done - there is no escape. Life provokes and pushes us to the edge, but with the will correctly oriented toward ever-present opportunities for healing, we are supposed to pull ourselves back and transform with spiritual resolve. The work is to heal suffering, to come to love, and reside in our joyful, loving hearts. For those who move their living experience out of the physical and into the etheric, this - more than anything - becomes the imperative.

If you or someone you know have been touched by suicide or are experiencing grief, please take heart that in time, all people (incarnate and discarnate) can find peace. Seek support by reaching out and connecting with someone who can help. Suicide carries considerable karmic consequences which result in immense suffering for all involved. This can be often be prevented if people can be supported to better bear their distress with the goal of understanding and transforming it.

If you are considering suicide, your soul implores you to eliminate that as a viable option. It isn't an option. As impossible as it seems, it is far easier to work through your current challenges when you are incarnate and have the ability to rectify them. Seek and ask for the support you need to manage or contact me if you are in urgent need.

The objective of Life is to heal us by provoking and evoking our potential. This is Love's way of helping us get the best out of ourselves. Let's please aim to make that the reality we choose.


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